Foreign men willing to marry a Russian woman often have a reasonable fear to make a mistake in their choice. If you are one of them, I will try to give you some pieces of advice.
The most dangerous category of women for you are those, for whom a foreign marriage is only a means of improving their welfare. If a woman keeps actively questioning you about your financial situation, asks what you can provide her with and doesn't show any interest in you personally, you have to be careful; most possibly she tries to marry your wallet, but not you.
Another case is no less dangerous. There are women who are really searching for a man to marry with, and still, living with them may seem an endless nightmare to you. Who are they?
Firstly, very selfish ones. If a woman is concentrated on herself, she will be hardly ever able to find any time for you and your children. You will be lucky enough, if she confines to admiring herself, but if she demands the same from you, I need to assure you, your life will become terrible.
Secondly, those who are true bitches. Every man has some experience of dealing with them, and also some idea of them. For one of my male acquaintances, for example, a bitch is a selfish, rude, falsely compliant, double-faced woman, for whom a man is nothing but a means of attaining her goal. "She is twice as selfish," as he often remarks. Only one thing is clear here: you should run as fast and as far as possible from her.
Thirdly, those who are fools. In general, a silly person is not a pleasant thing, so to say. But a silly woman is a real natural disaster. She doesn't only say stupidities, she acts stupidly. A too clever woman is not, certainly, a dream, of a man; as a famous Russian satirist A.Raikin said once: "What do you need a wise wife for? You will always feel an idiot by her side." That is why you should seek for a woman, who could be smart enough as not to show that she is cleverer than you; but beware of fools.
Fourthly, beware of heavenly beautiful women. It is well-known that the Lord equally grants all of us, and people who are good-looking, smart, easy to deal with and compliant at the same time are rather rare. While looking at a pretty lady, think and see if her good looks is not the only thing she is endowed with.
While communicating with a woman you should pay your attention at several points:
- the way she behaves, whether her behaviour isn't too familiar and vulgar;
- the drinks she prefers, if she doesn't abuse alcohol;
- the way she treats others (in public transport, in the restaurant, in the hotel, in the street). Beware of rude and scandalous women;
- how she spends money. It is not characteristic of a virtuous Russian woman to throw the money, even if she were rich;
- how she behaves with you. If she offers herself right after the first minutes, she is not the woman you need;
- the topics she is ready to discuss, and the manner she does it. If she is concentrated on her own problems and ignores the things you tell her, she is not the one you are looking for;
- how she treats the children, yours and her own ones. A true Russian woman is easy to discover by her tender attitude to children;
- the people she deals with. The folk wisdom says: "Tell me who you friend is, and I'll tell you who you are." Even if a woman is a good actress and manages to create a favourable image of hers, her personal contacts will tell you much more about her and, what is more important, in a more honest way.
Men from abroad are often afraid of getting married a prostitute. I will give some recommendations, how to reveal such a woman:
- She doesn't want to speak about her job.
- She says that she is a secretary, an accountant, a waitress, and it doesn't correspond with her high level of living. She might as well have prosperous parents or a former husband to provide her; try to find it out. Don't forget that high salaries are commonly paid in the sphere of finance; and women working in other spheres aren't usually well-paid.
- She doesn't want you to meet her family: her way of life might be the reason of her family relations break up.
In spite of it all, do not be too suspicious. The point is much easier: you should better not look for your future wife in bars, restaurants, hotels and on the streets at night. I wish you good luck. May you be happy!
